As the end of 2017 approaches, I believe it’s mandatory for me to make some sort of a reflection post to look back at the fleeting year and took something from it as a foundation to make 2018 a better year.
First of all, let’s recap. 2017 has been…for the lack of better terms, mundane. And that’s me sugarcoating it. I wouldn’t say it’s the worst, I’ve had a worse year. But I also definitely had lots of better ones. I don’t know if it’s due to a part of growing up, but 2017 might have just been one of the hardest years I have to endure. Needless to say, I’m glad it’s over. Not that I’m sure that 2018 going to be significantly better. I’d become a lot less optimistic about this kind of thing. Maybe that’s why I’ve stopped making resolutions.
As people say, the hardest time is where you get the most lessons. It could be true. But I’m more of a “quality over quantity” type of person. So I’d just go ahead and say that 2017 is the year I got the most valuable lessons. I learned a whole lot about myself (it’s scary how little you know about yourself, actually) and I hope it could help me to cope with 2018 better, in case it turn out to be worse.
1. Nothing good ever comes from overthinking
Overthink is in my blood. I spent nearly the entire 2017 being unhappy with a choice I made because I kept regretting it and thinking about it like a broken record in my brain. I missed out on a lot of things because I constantly overthinking stuff. It’s been standing in the way between me and happiness, I guess. I worry A LOT about making mistakes, and not making everyone happy that it took a toll on my mental wellness. And that’s not good, I don’t yield anything from that. Might as well try not to, am I right?
2. I can’t please everyone
For the whole year, I tortured myself by doing something that I thought was expected from me and become overly frustrated when I feel that I don’t deliver. I didn’t even know if that’s true. It might have been only in my head and even if it is, I shouldn’t prioritize what people expect me to do over what I actually want to do. I’ll try anything in my power to not let that happen again.
3. It’s okay not to know everything
I’ve always prided myself on knowing everything. But the hard truth that I need to face is the fact that I actually don’t and it’s okay. This obsessive thing about wanting to know everything is unhealthy because 1.) It’s not possible given time and resource constraint and 2.) I got so stressful when I can’t. So for the sake of sanity, I’ll just take it easy on myself and stop pushing myself to learn about every. single. thing.
4. Social media break is a bliss
This year, due to a hectic schedule, I was pushed to take a social media break. I had read so much about it and had been wanting to try it myself but had always thought that I wouldn’t be able to. So when I finally got the chance to take a social media break, I could testify that it felt great. I could feel that it’s also great for my mental health and I’m definitely planning on doing that more regularly next year. It’s refreshing, you gotta try it sometimes.
5. Stop making everything personal
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve hurt my own feeling just because I take everything too personally. Obviously, I cannot expect everyone to understand what might or might not hurt my feelings. Most of the time they don’t even have the intention to do so and I still got my fragile feelings hurt. And in that situation, it’s nobody’s fault but me. It comes from within, we decide how we perceive things. And to stop making everything personal is a way to protect ourselves.
6. It’s okay not to know what you want to do
I’m just a competitive girl in a competitive world and it pains me to be unsure about what I really want to do with my life. Especially at my age. While most people my age are already running around with their steady job and glistening career path, or with a striving business. It seems like they got it all figured out. But everyone has a different path. Although we may take a similar path in the beginning, we may head to different destinations and the path may take longer for some.
7. It’s alright to make mistakes
I’ve spent almost all my life, striving for perfection when in fact it’s almost impossible. The fact that I sometimes make mistakes eats me up inside sometimes. But this year I realize, it is okay to make mistake. As a mere human, we’re bound to make mistakes along the way. And that’s alright as long as we own up to it and learn not to make the same mistake over again
8. Mental health is no joke
2017 is the year I witness a lot of lives taken away by the cruel mental illness. I myself have started to see myself struggling with it this year. Then I guess it’s not too much for me to say that we need to start looking at mental health more seriously. Let’s all start taking better care of ourselves, physically and mentally.
What are the lessons you’ve learned this year? How was your 2017?
I’ll see you next year. Happy holiday, loveliest! <3