Going The Distance

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Lots of people have been asking my boyfriend and I how in the world do we stand being in the dreaded long distance relationship for a significant amount of time. Well, before I start I guess I have to tell a little bit about our relationship. Haries and I started dating at the end of 2012, November to be exact. That means we’ve been dating for almost 3 years by now. Of those 3 years of being together, only LESS than a quarter of that time are spent literally together, like physically together. We’ve been on a long distance relationship even from the very start of this relationship. I was still completing my bachelor degree in Jogjakarta while he was still pursuing his bachelor degree in Melbourne AND went to Boston for a student exchange program. It didn’t stop there, upon completing our bachelor degree, he decided to stay put in Melbourne to apply for permanent residency of Australia while I decided to try working at a multinational company in Batam. Long story short, the LDR continues up until now and for at least a year from now since I’ll be leaving for Birmingham in less than 3 weeks.

We came across plenty of doubts toward the relationship that we’re in although not few admire us for our persistence and asking for some tips to go through this unfavorable kind of relationship. Here’s the thing, I don’t mean to belittle and underestimate those who are not in an LDR but, LDR is indeed hard and not for the weak. And if you ask for tips, I’m not sure there are some ultimate tips for a successful LDR since every couple consists of unique and different kind of individuals. What works for us might not work for other couple so I always try to refrain from giving the so-called LDR tips.

As for us, we try to always stick to our commitment that we will stay together no matter what obstacles we face and distance is one of them. It’s just like any other relationships that have their own other problem and it just so happens that our biggest problem is the bloody distance. It’s harder yes, but not impossible to work. And since we already had the commitment, we would not give up so easily. Hence, it goes without saying that commitment is the key to any successful relationship, long distance or not.

  • We were in a LDR for over 4 years before getting married. It’s takes really patient and committed people to keep things going.